Wednesday, July 14, 2010

Babywise. Part 2.

This was important enough to include in our Postpartum Doula training. I am posting it here because I get asked about Babywise a lot... Controversial? Definetly. Sorry. But it's science/fact backed and I'm throwing it out there.


  1. That book terrifies me. It frightens me that so many people see it as valid advice, and so much more...

  2. I believe I heard a brief thing on Babywise on a radio program. The idea of training one's little one to adapt to family life was intriguing. Having discovered that babies cry for reasons other than hunger, the idea that one didn't have to feed every time the child cries was also very nice. I worry about my kids getting too big for their britches and out of necessity have to increasingly tell my kids "no" or "wait." But I also know that babies are without guile and dependent and that it is up to us to take care of their needs. The world is a cruel and desperate place, but an infant learns to realize good comes through their caregiver. Love and trust are a baby's first prerogative. There is nothing required save accepting the care given. There is a difference between the will and wants of a 2-year-old and the true needs of a helpless infant. And I believe there is a responsibility of a parent to learn to recognize and meet those needs. Anyway, my two cents.

  3. I think babies are more trusting and calm if you don't use babywise. That book frustrates me to no end and everyone I know uses it!

  4. Well said, Christabelle! I full heartedly believe in a balanced family life. I also remember that learning that babies cry for more than just food was liberating. It really pays to be in tune with your wee one so you can hope to have some idea of what's going on!

    I've personally read the book (one and a half times! lol) and the first time I remember feeling overwhelmed and guilty. Jericho was less than a week old and I read just simply because I was curious and I believe that you should always be very familiar with what people one the "other side" believe. I remember feeling soooo confused because it (quite convincingly at the time) contradicted everything I had read prior. I'm in the middle of reading it again and can now pinpoint what made me feel that way: Gary Ezzo paints a VERY ugly picture of how horrible you child will turn out if you DON'T use babywise (Woe is you if you choose to attachment parent!). All parents want what's best for their children. If BW is the only book they've read there's a good chance they're convinced they will screw up their kids by not scheduling them or letting them cry in the name of training them. For being a Christian, I find Ezzo to be extradinarily "us VS. them" and divisive. Whoa, I just wrote another blog post in my comments, hahaha!! Thanks for reading, you guys!!

  5. The article you posted was really great. It was clear and cautionary, but not rabidly against the Babywise philosophy.
    I read BW and The Happiest Baby on the Block - pretty much the two ends of the spectrum - before giving birth. Both have some valid points, and both have some extreme points.
    Being a parent involves hearing many perspectives, good advice, bad advice, and finding your way to do what works for your family.
    I do have to say that it helped me in the early weeks to understand that just because my baby was crying didn't mean she was hungry every single time. Not that feeding her wasn't an option, but I wasn't a slave to nursing, either. And it helped me find a rhythm - eat, wake, sleep - that I would not have established otherwise.
    All that to say, it's good for parents (especially new ones) to learn, take the good stuff, and throw out the bad.